Parenting in the Digital Age

January 10, 2025 | Tips and Resources

By Yaffa Novograd, LMSW and Tikvah Womack, LCPC, MA-EXAT

We all know by now that spending too much time in front of a screen isn’t good for us. But let’s be honest: screens are everywhere, and it can feel almost impossible to escape them. Our daily lives—how we communicate, work, learn, and even unwind—are intertwined with technology. While there are definite benefits to using screens, excessive use can lead to real issues. U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy has expressed concerns about the risks of too much screen time, particularly for kids, and he’s even suggested that social media platforms should include health warnings aimed at younger users.

Managing screen time effectively is key to safeguarding both mental and physical health. Families can build healthier routines and foster stronger connections by setting clear limits and using practical strategies. Here are some actionable tips for parents to take charge and encourage better screen habits.

Embracing Screen-Free Time

One approach that can inspire others is the practice observed by many who follow Shabbat. Individuals disconnect from technology for 25 hours each week, transforming that time into an opportunity to connect more deeply with loved ones and engage in meaningful pursuits. This commitment illustrates that stepping away from screens and enjoying real-life moments is possible.

Though not everyone observes Shabbat, we can all take cues from this tradition. Here are some practical ways you can minimize screen time and foster healthier habits for your family throughout the week.

Establish Family Values and Guidelines

With so much content available online, it is important for families to set clear guidelines around technology use. Take the opportunity to sit down together and chat about what types of content are appropriate for your household. Open conversations about these values are essential so that everyone knows what’s expected.

Using parental controls and internet filters helps you stick to these guidelines, making it easier to ensure your kids engage with content that reflects your family’s values.

Limit and Schedule Screen Time

To keep a healthy balance with technology, managing screen time is key. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), children under the age of 2 should have no screen time except for video chatting, and children aged 2-5 should limit screen time to one hour or less per day. While no specific limit is given for older children, the AAP encourages parents to set reasonable limits and prioritize other activities.

Utilize device features to establish daily limits for app usage and overall screen time. Assess the limits you’ve set. If they’re not manageable, tweak them to fit your family’s lifestyle better.

Engage your family in various non-digital activities

Here are some ideas you can do instead of watching another show or scrolling through social media.

• Movement—Encourage movement through walks, swimming, or sports. These activities promote physical health and can be a fun way to spend family time.
• Self-Care—Read a new novel, self-help book, or  about something you are interested in. Give yourself a manicure, take a walk, bath, or call a friend. Journal and practice some healthy coping tools for stressful days. Prayer is also helpful in centering your mind and gaining clarity.
• Social Interaction—Support group gatherings, volunteer opportunities, or pursuing new hobbies can help build meaningful relationships.

Practice Mindfulness

Establishing a mindful morning and evening healthy rhythm is key. Start your child’s day with morning rituals that don’t include screen time. Likewise, create an evening routine that winds down without screens before bed. These rituals can help your child disengage from the stimulating effects of screens, setting them up for a more balanced day.

When used mindfully, technology can be a tremendous asset. Author and certified mediator Shifra Malka said it best, “Use technology as a tool and not a toy.” By intentionally incorporating screens into our lives, we reclaim control over their use and foster healthier interactions with technology.

Exploring the abundant opportunities outside the digital realm, particularly with family and friends, can lead to a more enriching and fulfilling life. Embrace these strategies to cultivate a balanced relationship with technology while building stronger bonds within your family and community.

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Yaffa Novograd, LMSW is a Clinical Outpatient Therapist at Jewish Community Services.

Tikvah Womack, LCPC, MA-EXAT is Manager of Clinical Services at Jewish Community Services.

Jewish Community Services (JCS) provides programs and services for people of all ages and backgrounds, helping them achieve their goals, enhance their well-being, and maximize their independence.  To learn more, visit jcsbalt.org or 410-466-9200.